Nancy and I defined a lot more of our relationship last night, and I’m feeling a lot more comfortable with where we’re at…and yes I totally got some. We decided that we’re more than friends and not quite a couple, which is a pretty cool place to be. She hinted that she may be looking for something monogamous, though, and I’m totally willing to try it for a while, but I’m not convinced she can be my “one and only.” She’s still iffy with her male friends. She makes things up to win arguments. And she keeps me at a distance. Don’t misunderstand, though; she’s not all bad; I just think some bad things have happened and she’s built up some defenses as a result.
I think that’s where things get tricky. I really want to get to know her better because I want to understand where she’s coming from, but there are other women I want to date, and things I want to do with someone that can’t involve her (Hint: It’s not a good idea to bring a recent rape victim to a class on rope bondage). Her emotions are not my responsibility, but I care enough to call things off before they get too far if she’s going to be hurt.
Also, I see hints of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in her. These may be the result of trauma, but I’ll have to get closer to tell for sure. If it is narcissism, I’ll definitely have to end it.
I’m seeing her again tonight and we’ll no doubt have a chance to talk things out a bit more. I’m curious to know where things are headed.
standin’ on a chain
July 25, 2009 at 10:08 pm
Sweetheart, stop psychoanalyzing people, okay? You’ll find that you’re more able to just enjoy their company if you focus on having a nice time.